So i wanted to recommend the article in the current MOUNTAIN ASTROLOGER by Liz Greene...

In the article/transcript (based on a talk she gave) she talks about transference and counter-transference within the counseling session, specifically how it applies to an astrological reading. After i read the article i did a personal little tailspin of self scrutiny at the pointy end of the small mind stick. 

It seems so important to just put it out there and be very clear... we all do this...WE ALL DO THIS. We all interact and function in the world through the lens of our own experiences.... much of this lens is shaped by our baggage - the stuff we know about and the stuff we don't. You see and hear through yours and i see and hear through mine... every minute of every day...

...and yet somehow despite all of this, really profound interactions can happen between ourselves and others. When it does, but most especially when it doesn't it is SO very important to have compassion here. For yourself, for other. Yes, it helps when we keep in the fore of our minds that all these subconscious energies are at work beneath the surface, but i don't think it helps if we approach any moment believing it should be other than what it is. I know, that sounds so cliche, but its true.

It is important to keep that window open for the Divine to shine through... you know? There we are in the little cave like cell we make for ourselves - we might have painted the walls in glorious colors, but there are somedays we feel really trapped by our limited perspectives. Somewhere up above though, just keep in your awareness that there is an opening. Possibility is the most wonderous of magic... it can get into the smallest crack if we let it.

So despite of what you carry, healed or unhealed within you - despite of what i carry healed or unhealed in me... i hope that like Rumi's poem:

Beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing

there is a field.

I’ll meet you there.